Truth, Transparency, Transformation
Volume IV, Spring/Summer 2018 Issue
Losing a Hero to Alzheimer's: The Story of Pearl
Pearl had been at her job for over 15 years as an Office Manager. She had a lot of tedious tasks to remember and perform. One day, Pearl’s friend from her job called and asked if the family had noticed anything different about her. She began to explain how Pearl was forgetting to complete tasks at work, and it became very noticeable to others. Consequently, Pearl started to share with Trish that she didn’t like her boss, and that she felt her boss was out to get her. That was totally out of character for her. She had always spoken very highly about her supervisor. As time went on, Pearl became more and more forgetful. She started to have difficulty remembering what she did from week- to- week and then day- to- day. When this was brought to her attention, she would get mad and become very defensive.
Today, I choose love over your last name.
I decided to go with joy and walk away from pain.
No need to apologize, you were just being you.
Don't get mad. I'm doing me, too.
Save your tears and explanations, no disrespect.
Your actions reveal your words as empty rhetoric.
I've taken off the glasses, though perfectly fitted and rosy,
To find you controlling, messy and loathing.
But as I looked in the mirror, I didn't recognize
The person I've become, battered and scarred by your lies.
The Fruit of Self-Control
The last fruit of the Spirit is self-control, which can be a difficult fruit to bear. My husband is blessed to be the king of moderation in all things. If there is some yummy snack lying around the house, Bob will only eat a reasonable amount. I, on the other hand, am not the queen of moderation. That snack would be gone in a matter of hours or even minutes. I do try to refrain from gluttony, though.
Food is not the only thing that requires self-control. I am thankful God protected me from the desire to share my private body parts with those who are not my spouse. It is a great blessing and a glue that strengthens a relationship when both spouses have never been intimate with anyone else.
Becoming a Person of Influence Through Obedience
Did you know that your very existence on this earth plays an important role in helping people get to where they belong in life? As His sons and daughters, God has called us to hear His voice through His Word and to reach those who are lost: those who need help in accomplishing a task or project, those who are misdirected, including those who just need a little hand-up. Realizing that I am God’s ambassador, each day that I live God has shown me how important my life is to people who are connected to me, and how my obedience to His Word affects the path that they take in their lives at that particular time. My obedience to God’s Word can either hinder or it can help people walk through their life’s journey successfully, and can even help them reach their destiny.
When the Two Won't Become One
Every day millions of people disregard a simple truth about power: power is experienced when two opposing parts take their place with each other and connect. You have appliances you use daily that do not perform unless they're connected: the charger, with its pronged end, won't work unless it's connected, and the outlet, with its inverted secret places, can't supply any support on its own. But when the two get together... power! Restoration!! Production according to purpose!!! Marriages are quite similar; power is only realized once the two opposite ends come together and connect. The Word is supposed to be the glue that brings us together, then binds us together, so that the seams disappear. But the more I look to defend my ways and opinions, the more space I create... the more distance that develops... the more I don't like what I've directly had a hand in decimating... the more room for the enemy.
Stop Beating Yourself Up!
Even while being honest with yourself, there are a few guidelines to follow in order to simultaneously cultivate self-care.
The three keys are:
1) Be forgiving with yourself.
2) Be kind and merciful to yourself.
3) Be patient with yourself.